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TRAPPED IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP

TRAPPED IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP

 I was trapped in an emotionless relationship for a year. I moved in with my boyfriend very fast, partially out of necessity, and partially because I “loved him” and wanted to” spend the rest of my life with him.”
What went from a loving, honeymoon-stage relationship quickly turned sour.

Moving into a house together that truthfully, we could barely afford; both having part time jobs and barely making enough for bills, let alone food and other necessities, lead to high volumes of stress.

At first, we would fight few and far between, and our tiffs wouldn’t last more than 30 minutes, then everything was back to normal.

But as time passed, we began to drift farther and farther apart. Stress increased, we became bitter and angry towards each other, we took our stress out on each other, and all of this, turned into screaming rampage fights that occasionally ended up with a hole in the wall, or me packing up some stuff and leaving.

Two months before I moved out, I went home to my parents’ house for the day. My mother and I sat outside talking about my work and “home-life” situations. I told my mother how incredibly trapped I felt in the life I began to build a year ago.

I was confused and miserable, didn’t know how to handle my emotions anymore, and I didn’t feel like I was making the right decisions.
Within the half hour, my mother came out with a Flower Essence remedy for me, concocted based on my current emotional state.
There were remedies for decision making (being able to make decisions based on what I truly wanted inside), confidence, stress, anxiety, and strength (of mind).

Over the course of the next week or two, the remedy began to kick in and I realized how unhappy I had truly had become. I had my job, friends, a house, and a life in this town, and it was difficult for me to pick up, leave, and not turn back.
For two more months, I tried everything I could think of to make this relationship work, not out of weakness, but I didn’t want to end it without having given it my best shot. I made special dinners, surprised him with little gifts and fun little getaways, left cute notes, and numerous other things.

But nothing curbed the fights and the stress.
The last few nights of our relationship, he didn’t come home until very late, he was physically there, but emotionally distant, and I knew it was over. My last effort was to have a romantic night under the stars, with wine and just us cuddling, no stress.

That night, I arrived home from work, and he didn’t even look up from his computer to say hello, or even say hello. That was it for me.
I went outside to sit by myself and think, really contemplate whether or not I was officially ready to move home. We talked and discussed what we should do, the most civil conversation we had, had about our relationship in months.
And that night, I decided to move home.

confidence

So I drove home, sobbing the whole way. When I arrived, my mom was waiting for me with a Flower Essence.

This one was for grief, confidence and heartbreak.

That night, I had trouble sleeping, my mind was spinning, and I couldn’t settle down or shut my brain off.  But the next morning, I woke up with a clear head, knowing exactly what steps I needed to take.  I called up some friends with big cars, brought some boxes and bags, and packed up my whole house.

Within three days, I was completely over the relationship, wasn’t upset about the breakup, or even that he had cheated on me.  I really just didn’t care. I felt relieved, I felt free!  I knew this was not the relationship for me in my heart,  It all just melted away, and faded into a distant memory.

The flower essences helped me cope with what could have been a roller coaster of emotions, doubt, and confusion, and low self esteem.  Instead, I was able to think clearly, make decisions, and know with confidence that I’m making the right choice.  I picked myself up, dusted myself off, fixed up my room, searched for job, decided on my future and moved right into it!

Now I am in a great relationship, with a guy that is worthy of me and moving forward on the right path every day!

Here are some remedies given to me to help move me forward – Five Corners by Australian Bush for confidence Wild Oat by Bach- to help me cement what I wanted for my future career Boronia + Bottlebrush – helps to not think about, pine over and change habits in a relationship Scots Pine by Findhorn to help me trust my inner knowing, set goals and move forward with trust in self and confidence

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