We often think of childhood as the one time in our life we don’t remember being stressed. It was just a period of bliss – adulthood is the hard stuff, right? But more and more we are seeing cases of anxiety in children, from panic attacks to anxious reactions to school or family situations and beyond. But children aren’t supposed to have anything to worry about!
What really stands out is that many of us that don’t struggle with anxiety, don’t realize that that is what our children are struggling with. Many times it is perceived as child behavior problems
. A question I get regularly is “How do we deal with childhood anxiety and is there a safe, effective natural treatment for anxiety?”
The answer is yes.
First, here is some information that may surprise you. Statistics prove that children are beginning to develop high rates of anxiety: 25% of children 13 to 18 years old will encounter anxiety over the course of a year, and nearly 6% in the same age group are diagnosed with a severe anxiety disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health.
This doesn’t even account for children younger than 13. According to the Centers for Disease Control, 3% of children 3 to 17 years old were diagnosed with anxiety in 2011 – over 5 years ago. This number is expected to be higher now, and more and more parents are seeking answers and solutions to the problems facing their children.
How do we deal with childhood anxiety and is there a safe, effective natural treatment for anxiety?
How Anxiety Manifests in Children ?
As a parent, you probably don’t expect to see anxious reactions in your child. After all, it’s your job to worry – not theirs! But when your child starts behaving in anxious ways, you may sit up and take more notice.
What are the symptoms of anxiety?
Signs of anxiety often manifest in children in ways. Here are a few – they may show signs of one or maybe even all:
• Visible agitation during a perceived stressful event
• Avoidance of stressful and even non-stressful events (going to school, playdates, tests, talking to kids on the playground, etc.)
• Constant need for reassurance from parents, peers, or teachers • Difficulty sleeping • Highly emotional reactions to perceived failure
• Chronic worry
• Anger • Perfectionism
• Fears- Rational or Irrational
• Not comfortable with loud noises or even specific “words”
• Not able to stop thinking • Inability to calm down, even after a logical explanation or reassurance is given.
Helping Your Child Cope As a parent, you may be tempted to brush off your child’s reactions, telling him or her to “Just calm down, it’s not a big deal.” But think about all the times you’ve been stressed out as an adult. And honestly, as someone who struggled with anxiety – I knew my fears and thoughts were irrational, but I could not control it.
This happened as an adult. children don’t understand, and may not even realize these thoughts are not usual for most of us. The first step to helping your child deal with anxiety is examining, watching to see what their symptoms are, what their child behavior problems are.
Is it true misbehavior or do you see a nervousness/discomfort in them.
Here are a few ways to help in the moment.
• Empathizing: Letting them know that you understand their concerns, and that you can relate. Validating their emotions doesn’t give the anxiety power, it gives your child a moment to feel like he or she is understood.
• Encouraging them to break down their thoughts: Ask them what situation they are worried about, what thoughts they have about that situation, and why they keep thinking about it. This thought mapping can help children calm down enough to process logically, and can give them the tools to find the loopholes in anxious thinking. This is an invaluable tool you can help your child develop to cope with anxiety throughout life.
• Staying calm: Watching your child panic is not fun for any parent. But what your child needs is a rational, calm parent to talk them through their issues.
• Deep Breathing: This is for children, as well as adults- when in a fearful moment, do deep breathing. Dr. Andrew Weil has tapes on breathing and he talks about breathing in through your stomach while your stomach is expanding for maybe a count of 7 (you choose your comfort number), hold it for 8, and breath out for 9. Do this a few times and it will get you through your immediate fears.
As a Practitioner For Emotional Health I work with anxiety and childhood anxiety and childhood behavior problems. First, we want to know where the symptoms are to understand what your child is actually struggling with. Then we work on where they came from. I even want to know background on childbirth, surgeries, the energy around them, family background.
All of these things will help in determining how to help your child. Once we figure it out, the rest is easy! We target specific individual struggles and work to reverse them which happens safely, effectively and profoundly without the use of medications, but natural, yet powerful remedies. Most see results, as I did for myself, within the first 30 days.
Flower remedies are safe and easy to use and can you try them yourself for your child without any worry of side effects. There are none. Here a few you can order online and play around with. Just add a few drops to any liquids a few times daily. If you choose good remedies, you should see results in a few short days.
If you choose remedies that are not needed, you wont see anything and there is absolutely no harm. Wild Pansy, Daisy, Scottish Primrose by Findhorn Essences (for anxiety, inner turmoil and fears). You can order online. Emergency, Dog Rose of the Wild Forces, Kangaroo Paw by Australian Bush Flower Essences ( trauma, chaos around them, social anxiety).
There are a few of the remedies you can try for your child. As you begin to see changes using appropriate remedies (you can look each up), as they begin to feel better, stay with the remedies a few months and it should stick – calming their anxiety.
The earth has truly given us all we need to heal and relieve the intense anxiousness like it did for me. Seek out a Flower Remedies Practitioner, Botanical Practitioner who can help answer your questions and get healing moving.
The changes you will see in your child, bringing them to who they truly are will change the life of your child and the tone of the household!